When I have my own undergraduate students read about the “true self” research, many are shocked by the results, having believed that the Internet was rife with dishonesty.The idea that people could be, in some ways, genuine online than off strikes them as counterintuitive.
It might take some time and slow progress, but he'll likely come around.
The second issue—what individuals are most likely to lie about—can be divided into several categories, including physical appearance, education, relationship or job status, and issues related to personality traits and interests.
When we might be especially honest Surprisingly, people can sometimes be more authentic online than offline in the way they express their personality.
Wouldn’t it be great if people were like computers?
Instead of acting on things like “feelings” and “emotions,” we’d work off facts and empirical evidence, so that we’d never be fooled by the same racket twice.
Online communication has become an integral part of most of our lives, and yet many people continue to view those they meet on the Internet with suspicion.
They imagine that online forums are filled with sexual predators and people using false identities. Online interactions vary in terms of two major questions: (1) What venues are we using to communicate, and, (2) What are we lying about?
Even a total jerk can be expected to be a nice guy 80% of the time.
And that 80% is all the positive reinforcement you need to stick around for too long with the wrong guy.
If he's acting irrationally, it certainly isn't your fault, but take into consideration that (within reason) it isn't entirely his fault either.
Understanding his side of the situation (and why he's doing things that could initially be perceived as hurtful) will be very helpful moving forward. Those past relationships aren't necessarily romantic. Someone with trust issues might not have a big, flashing horrible relationship to point at.