Ladies, it's been said before, but I'll say it again: They just don't make ’em like they used to. If you're a single woman, you probably envisioned your twenties as a roaring social scene full of expensive dinners and lavish nights out.
There's no door-holding, no hand-holding and definitely no free drinks. You probably thought you'd have a boyfriend, or at least a few dates a week.
The evening consists of a five-course meal in an upmarket hotel.
At the start of each course the male participants change tables according to a preset list, so that each person has the opportunity to have a mini-date with five different people.
And here we naively thought men were doing it because they were enlightened. Being a feminist doesn’t mean that we want chivalry and the feeling of being wanted to go out the window. We claim that guys aren’t aggressive anymore, don’t come up to us in bars, or take initiative in asking us out, but maybe it’s really that as overeducated, ambitious women we don’t like being chased.
Women have slowly received more and more support for the feminist movement in the past century. Men are no longer the “aggressors” they used to be when beginning a relationship. But just because we know we can, doesn’t mean we want to. While it’s easy to blame men (very easy), are women also at fault?
There is such a difference between what is available for men and woman.
Sure it will start with great sex and they will make you feel “alive” and young but proceed with caution.
When I am not writing columns I spend my time in an office which works with and for young people.
Last year we tried a new event for young adults which we called Dating & Degustation.
It would make sense that we believe we need to chase men and they are simply responding to that.
Yet, we’ve made excuses for the fact that men don’t ask us out anymore. We’ve been chasing our whole lives for schools, jobs, and promotions.
We're dealing with a new breed of men here and it's not the kind we grew up dreaming about.
It’s the want-what-I-want-but-don’t-know-how-to-get-it type; it’s the sweet and cuddly mama’s boys who grow up terrified of making the first move; it’s the guys who have so much to say but don’t know how to say it. We're left playing both sides of the game because they've simply forgotten how to play. They want the girl who's hard to get, but they don't know how to get her. We must tell them what they want if we're to get anywhere close to the goals we had for ourselves.
We have all heard about how easy it is for a man to start dating in his fifties and how there are plenty of women to choose from. Early 30’s and never been married – these women must have “daddy issues”.
Their desire to be with men 15-20 years their senior means they are looking for someone to take care of them both financially and personally.
Yes, it’s acceptable now for women to approach men, be aggressive, ask them out on dates.
I just don’t want men to descend into “herbivores” (google herbivore men).