The average duration of courtship varies considerably throughout the world.
Furthermore, there is vast individual variation between couples.
Surely each individual is unique, and generalizations/stereotypes about an entire culture can’t be made based on a very little number of individuals.
However, from an anthropological perspective, certain cultures tend to practice same rituals due to the culture transmission throughout the years, and even though an individual may have his/her particular characteristics, a community in many cases is fostered and developed to shape a shared mindset that may not always function exactly the same way but definitely in parallel.
Relationships vary by country and so do expectations for dating. Teaching and living abroad shouldn't mean putting your love life on hold.
It is polite to arrive on time, to take a small token of your appreciation (a potted plant, flowers, sweets), especially if you are going to a private home, and to say thank you afterwards by telephone, postcard, or letter.University students or not, however, most women try their best to get a part-time job or job after High-school as they are no longer “as dependent” on their parents.Regardless if they still live with their parents or not, or if their parents are forcing them to work or not, most of them feel the need to be part of the labor force (wether arubaito, haken or freeter) in order for Japan, as a community itself, to grow collectively.One of the first Japanese words you will hear in reference to you is “Gaijin,” literally translated as “outside person.” For those who came from a heterogeneous society composed of immigrants from around the world, it may be troubling to be referred to as a “foreigner,” “alien,” or “gaijin.” The term “gaijin” is not generally used to downgrade foreigners, although some visitors, who live in rural areas where people are unaccustomed to foreigners, sometimes find it very annoying to have children point fingers at them and call them “gaijin.” Others wonder why Japanese do not identify foreigners as “Americans,” “British,” or “Australians,” rather than lumping all non-Japanese together as “gaijin.” Long-time foreign residents of Japan may also find it annoying to still be referred to as “gaijin,” but the continuing use of the term must be understood in terms of Japan’s historical development and relative homogeneity.Upon meeting each other for the first, second or umpteenth time, men and women usually bow, although the more cosmopolitan may shake hands.You don’t have to talk about all of these things with each dating partner, but you should definitely think about it especially with one that seems like it could evolve into a relationship. Are you looking for a casual hookup, a friend with benefits, a boyfriend/girlfriend, or a future marriage partner?As mentioned before, you probably shouldn't actually discuss this, but early on in the dating process, you should figure out what you want from the relationship. If you are looking for a long-term relationship, set some long-term dates, like going to Sky Tree on Christmas or a romantic getaway to Okinawa during summer vacation.Often, people will bow and shake hands simultaneously!Ask your advisor for advice about how to greet people who are older and younger than you, your peers, and other categories of people you will meet in Japan.A courtship may be an informal and private matter between two people or may be a public affair, or a formal arrangement with family approval.Traditionally, in the case of a formal engagement, it has been perceived that it is the role of a male to actively "court" or "woo" a female, thus encouraging her to understand him and her receptiveness to a proposal of marriage.