To look at it a different way, using a template message is 75 percent as effective as creative a custom message, and a hell of a lot faster.
Of course, we here at Vi DA have been saying that since 2010, but it’s always nice to have an irrefutable data source on our side…If you want better results in less time, copy/paste is hands-down the way to go.(Further reading: This section of ‘Dataclysm’ reprinted on NYMag.com)Sounds great, but I still need a message…No, what you really need is an icebreaker.
Subject Line: Sorry, no pictures of my junk included…
Email: This may come as a surprise to you, but I’m going to make you wait to see the Family Jewels.
If I could only give one bit of dating advice, it would be to send messages to everyone who takes your fancy.
However, when it comes to sending your first message to someone it can be hard to think of what to say.
Or do you go the “mass appeal” route, and fire off the same message to 15-20 women in that same amount of time? You spend 20 minutes composing The Perfect Message. The point is, that's 20 minutes of your life you'll never get back.
The first message you send to a woman online will make or break your chances with her.
Make a positive impression and you’re halfway to getting laid.
If your profile is half-finished, or Arctic in its brevity, or doesn’t include photos, most likely you won’t receive a reply.
For more advice, check out our top tips for writing your online dating profile. Again, don’t panic – it doesn’t have to be the best, most perfect subject line in the history of email. If your match mentions loving a specific film, use a quote from it as your subject.
How’s about instead of exchanging perverted pics, let’s talk about what we’re looking for in a partner over some drinks this weekend? I read through your profile and, as you will notice, we’re both looking for the same things in a partner. And, let’s face it, I’m a pretty darn good looking dude!
So hit me up when you get a chance and maybe we can set something up for this weekend. In both emails, we conquered each of those requirements.
Struggling to think of the right thing to say to an attractive match?
Here’s match.com’s relationship expert Kate Taylor with dating advice on how to give great copy.
Use that scientific discovery to your own advantage, by starting your email with a “Hello [Username]” and not a non-specific “Hi.” If you want to create a feeling of warmth, shorten their name, use its initials, or create a nickname based on one of their interests. Everyone loves to read about themselves, so don’t begin your message by launching straight in about you.
Instead, start by saying what caught your eye about their profile.