The infection, which is caused by the herpes simplex 1 and herpes simplex 2 viruses and passed via skin-to-skin contact, can show up as a cluster of sores on the mouth area or genitals.
Unfortunately, most doctors still do NOT include a test for herpes during routine STD testing for their patients.
Fortunately, it turns out that most of the time dating with herpes isn't nearly as scary as worrying about it. One of the toughest things to remember when dating with herpes is that mostly it's just .
Here's why: After herpes diagnosis, it may be difficult to think about anything other than the fact that you have a disease. Dating is an activity fraught with the potential for drama, pain, and heartbreak for pretty much everyone.
Now that you know you have genital herpes, you're out of the dating game, right? There's no reason to stop looking for love and fun.
Genital herpes doesn't detract from your many desirable qualities, which have drawn people to you in the past and will continue to make you a great catch. The first date after a genital herpes diagnosis may seem a little strange, however.
When someone is first diagnosed, the thought of dating with herpes can fill them with horrible anxiety. They may be scared they could spread herpes to their future partners.
They may simply be terrified about how they are going to face the world.
But all the self-acceptance in the world doesn’t erase the fact that a herpes diagnosis creates ripple effects of shame and social isolation, and the fallout is especially pronounced when it comes to your dating life.“It’s good to have the conversation because there is a potential risk of transmission,” Cherrell Triplett, M.
D., an ob/gyn who practices at Southside OBGYN and Franciscan Alliance in Indianapolis, Indiana, tells SELF.
Most doctors NEVER test their patients for herpes, even when they are testing you for other STD’s. Most doctors do NOT include a herpes test for their patients – UNLESS YOU ASK SPECIFICALLY FOR A HERPES BLOOD TEST.
The best way to diagnose herpes when you are not having symptoms is to request a herpes blood test.